Wednesday, July 19, 2006

A little rant

I wish somebody would tell we new neighbours that it ain’t polite to stare like dawg focusing on bone.

A group o’ Guyanese fellas move into the house next door, the house where them Brazilians use to live. They don’t ever, never ever come out to show they face to say hello, but when I go through we back door I does feel them staring...and when I look, I see they shadow at they window, staring, staring from behind insect screen and iron grill, in between the louvre windows.

I don’t know if them is good boys who don’t know better...or they just plain bad...I don’t know if they do it to intimidate...

The only other time I experience this weird kinda staring was from a drug-addict down the street from me in Jamaica.

I don’t know how other women feel ‘bout men staring at them like that but it make me uncomfortable. I think I need a burka.

I don’t know what men think ‘bout other men behaving like that.

All I know is, if they show they face I would say hello. Just to be good neighbour. But they don’t ever show they face.

Hm, maybe they in purdah.

22 comments:

Jonathan said...

If they're in purdah, then maybe it's a diktat from their wife.

piu piu said...

ha ha. gg in a burka! even just through your words its hard to imagine...

DaveM said...

Maybe they are shy

Ordinary Janet said...

Next time you see them staring, smile and wave. Maybe then you'll find out if they're friendly or just creepy.

Mad Bull said...

Whats purdah. Keep a sharpened cutlass near to hand. You may need to put it to good use. Thats my opinion!

Hayden said...

laughing, gg! Love the idea of men in purdah - too funny. Jonathan's idea is perfect.

I've known of women who have done the same thing - whole families, actually - never out and saying hello, always lurking just behind the curtains. It's wierd and uncomfortable. Nosy neighbors, tracking everyone and making up stories to explain ordinary events.

Shyha said...

mad bull: purdah - a screen used in India to separate women from men or strangers, the Hindu or Moslem system of keeping women secluded, a state of social isolation (I had to find it myself ;])

Hmmmm, maybe you should wave them if you see those 'shadows'. It could provoke one of two effects:
- feel them as uncomfortable as you are (if they were lurking in the way hayden said)
or
- make them show?
there is also a 3rd possibility - if they were really shy, they will be more

That's my pseudo-psychologic-analysis ;)

Sarah said...

Andy used to stare at people when they annoyed him or like, bumped into him at a bar.

It was surprisingly inaffective, but people gawking out of their house at you when you're minding your own business is kind of intimidating... I reckon you should take them food or something. Kill them with kindness.

Mary said...

Maybe you should go over and say hello. People never expect and it eases the situation.

Guyana-Gyal said...

Hi Jonathan, welcome :-D I'd be so happy if I heard a wife's voice over there...

Yes, they're probably shy, etc etc...but this is the Caribbean...I'll have to write a post explaining this...

Okay guys, tell me...do ALL men stare like this? Do men know that there are ways and ways of staring, and some ways can intimidate?

Mary, Sarah, Janet, I don't know how to approach a group of strange men who STARE boldly but don't show themselves. And I'm one of the friendliest person you can find. I don't think any woman can do it.

Hahahaha Mad Bull knows the truth about living in the Caribbean.

Piu, picture this...me, covered in jet black fabric from head to toe. Dark veil over the eyes. Hands covered with black gloves. Feet in black stockings. Tripping down the back stairs, trip trip trip over the hem...BADDAM...I fall...

The Boy said...

Time to get a welcoming party together. Get the biggest cousins, uncles, male friends together, then bake a big ol cake and head over en mass to "welcome" them to the area. The best messages are the subtle ones...

Kingston Girl said...

I think you should just stare back. And find some of the little pickney in the area and offer them some of your best mangoes in exchange for standing outside the men's house and staring, pointing and laughing all day!

Alternatively, maybe they are just transfixed by your beauty!!

cadiz12 said...

as someone who shares your hatred for staring, i'm with kingston girl. make sure your stareback is MEAN, too. ;)

Stunner said...

One of two things, either they perverts or they just shy or just plain weird!

Modern Viking said...

Where'd the Brasilians go? You scare them away?

Well if these new guys give you trouble, give 'em a goat-butt!

Aunty Marianne said...

I'd be straight over with a plate of biscuits and invite them to some town gathering and then aggressively introduce them to everyone I know. That way they can be the ones the whole town stares at, or at least gives them something else to stare at.

Gela's Words said...

Gyal, dem just trying to get up dem courage to chat wid yu man. How yu a gwaan so :-) so in de meantime, dem observing yu movements so dem can 'no wat lyrics to lick yu wid.

Guyana-Gyal said...

Gela, them is too facety, forward and ferocious.

Hey hayy, Marianne, Kingston Girl, I should get you two to stare 'em down for me.

Viking, that's what my mother said, that I scared away the Brazilians, hahaha.

Stunner, maybe they really just shy and friendly. But I watching and waiting...

Staring itself doesn't bother me, Cadiz...we are a staring people...but there are ways of staring that scare.

The Boy, that's it...the big, hulk of men I know, brother's friends and so on...

bakannal time said...

caribbean ppl dont do the welcomin committee ting. if u were a hag they wouldnt stare. mebbe u jus hot an they wanna get to kno u but too scared to approach. wave nex time an see wat happens.

Guyana-Gyal said...

If I see them that's what I'd do, Bakannal, honest. But they don't come out to say hi. I want some false Dracula teeth hee hee hee hee

PI said...

If it were me GG I'd just ignore them and not waste time fretting which is maybe what they want you to do.
If they haven't the manners they were born with they do NOT exist.

Sandy said...

Would make me feel uncomfortable too GG , it does seem rather odd behaviour. Best to ignore them if you can.
Like the idea of men in purdah. :)